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Best friends forever

On the subject of parenting, discipline is a word people like to throw around. Some even seem to brag about it. You might have seen different but I've seen firsthand too many cases of disciplinarian parents and the disastrous results of their methods many years later.

Fact is even when I was a kid, I never felt like a kid. The adults I respected were the ones who didn't treat me like a kid but as an equal because I felt simply like another human being. They listened to what I had to say, and in return I listened to what they had to say as well. There is no magic trick, only long-term relationships built on sustained patience and trust. In short, Mr. Rogers was right all along.

I suspect in the need to discipline for a quick fix, too many adults end up beating any creativity and genius out of children. I like old school music but when it comes to old school parenting, no thanks.

Personally, I believe job one for me as a parent is to support. If I'm not supporting my children, …

Who needs to think when my feet just go

Thinking too much about a decision makes me worried, which is caused by the fear of being wrong. 
However, much of the time being wrong has little to do with what I do but what others do. But I have no control over people. So there is no shame in being wrong if it was due to the actions of others. Besides, many times a decision isn't so much about being correct or incorrect but about choosing which path fits with who I am and who I want to be.
Therefore, if I'm ok with what happens just as long as I do right, then let my feet will go confidently. Continue being a genius of love because who you are isn't dependent on unknown and uncontrollable factors.

The Genius of Love blog is also ☮️.com

Thanks to emojis, there is a new way to reach the Genius of Love blog in three easy steps: Take out your mobile phone. Open your web browser.In the address bar, type in the emoji "☮️" and then ".com" (that is, ☮️.com) and press enter.You can do the same thing on your computer if you can type in emojis there. If you use the Chrome web browser, you can view emojis by right clicking on your mouse while you're on the address bar.

There you go. Now you have another way to be a genius of love. ❤️

Love versus Logic

Sometimes reality hits us. Sometimes we can't take the stairs. There are things we cannot do. It's logically not possible.

Fortunately, love doesn't need logic to work. Love works because it takes more than what is "reasonable" to make things better. A big heart goes a long way. Creativity goes a long way. Sheer passion and hard work go a long way. Genius goes a long way. Pretty soon, when logic is surrounded by those hefty characters, it is no match. It's not even a fair fight.

Throughout history, logic has given us stark inequity, cutthroat competition, and the incarceration of the disadvantaged. The world and its children deserve better. I propose we give love and understanding a much bigger push this time around.

No, we won't be taking the stairs today. We geniuses of love will be using jet packs.

Friends on a bad day

You had a bad day. You made mistakes. People criticized your decisions. Nobody seems to understand you and what you were trying to do.

Well, your heart was and still is in the right place. So I want to tell you what you did was enough. You are enough. On a different day, the results would likely be different.

Know that through our shared belief, we are indeed friends. And as your friend, I want you to know that I appreciate what you do. Don't let people discourage you. Continue to show love. Try again tomorrow and the day after that and so on because nobody can diminish a genius of love.

The real enemies

When we have love in our heart, we feel a wonderful sense of peace. But beware. Always lurking is an enemy that can disrupt our well-being: anger.

What starts as harmless impatience can turn into anger. What starts as a misunderstanding can turn into anger. What even starts as fun can turn into anger.

People worry much about how others can harm them, but I rarely hear them say how they can harm themselves from their own destructive feelings and behavior.

If you can defeat your emotional enemies time and again, imagine the possibilities. There is nothing you cannot do. You will be called a genius of love.

The first step

What is the first step in being great at something? The first step is being bad at it. We all start somewhere. I don't take it for granted that I would start, much less continue.

The good news is if I can start, I can continue, because starting is the hardest part for me. When I decided to start this Genius of Love blog and leave a project I've been working on for 20 years, it wasn't easy. But I wanted to be a genius of love -- a writer and doer of all things good and wonderful (or at least I try to be!) -- so here I am and here I go!

A love so big

Last Saturday while I was driving in the rain and thinking about whether I should start the Genius of Love blog, my son James said hey dad the windshield wiper blades are making a heart:

Not only were the wiper blades making a heart but making a heart so large that it couldn't fit in a small view of a windshield. Even my picture above doesn't do the size of the heart justice.

Like a frog in a well, sometimes I believe I see the world fully but it's based on a limited view. I need to look around more, observe more, understand more, show love more, and be a genius of love. It is obvious James is already a genius of love.

From The Art of War to Genius of Love

UPDATE: Genius of Love is now Genius of Peace
Having studied Sun Tzu's Art of War for almost all of my life, I know that being a master of the Art of War is synonymous with being a genius of love. ☮️

Therefore, after 20 years of, it is time to move on to a more direct path in the form of a daily blog called Genius of Love. I hope you can continue to join me.

Inspired by the catchy and nostalgic 1981 song Genius of Love by the Tom Tom Club (written by geniuses of love Chris Frantz and Tina Weymouth, former members of the band Talking Heads), this Genius of Love blog was started thanks to seven of the song's ideas:
What you gonna do when you get out of jail?
I'm gonna have some fun.
What do you consider fun?
Fun, natural fun.

Even in great success, too many people are nonetheless trapped like a prisoner. They end up being obligated to do things they don't like anymore. It's no longer fun. With this Genius of Love blog, I am focusing on a subject closer to my…