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Knowing my blind spots

The aim of being a genius of love is rife and riddled with missteps and mistakes. It's a high bar and a narrow path. What's unhelpful isn't so much I fell short of my goal but that I don't even know I fell short at all. So I need to know for sure whether I'm ascending the mountain or in reality descending it.

It's often better to know I suck than to know I'm doing good. The reason why it's better is the natural world demands refinement for something to work well. Whether it's a tiger catching its prey or a human playing the violin, nothing arrives perfect. Thus, I know I will need to adjust and make improvements. If somehow I'm doing everything right and everyone tells me I'm doing right, then I must be wary. Such perfection only exists in a vacuum or a bubble.

I feel good when I'm able to revisit a similar situation later on and respond differently -- in a kinder, more effective manner. But if I think I'm always right and others are wrong, then I won't even bother to do better. That's mental stagnation and certainly not a move made by a genius of love.


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