Wanting more is living life. Nothing great is achieved by not wanting more. What I want to talk about today is wanting more but in exchange losing something else, something even more valuable yet taken for granted until it's gone.
If you have lived long enough you probably already know what I'm talking about. If you don't, I can only hope what I share briefly today will be of benefit in the near future.
Even though Sun Tzu lived 2500 years ago, his ideas remain useful because he discusses matters very few thinkers discuss even today. One of them is the concept of cost, namely high costs of taking on an important endeavor. Just because you can do it doesn't mean you should. The cost isn't always of a financial nature but also a trust, duty, or humanity kind as well.
Life is filled with choices, some aren't even about being right and wrong but about who you want to be as a person. There will probably be a cost to being who you want to be, but the gain is you get to be who you want to be. The immediate consequences will seem dire, but you gain self-respect, confidence, and unforeseen long-term benefits.
What isn't so obvious is a higher loss incurred when going after something else. Only you can determine that. My suggestion is to remember to distinguish between what is already set in concrete and what is yet to settle. Certainty applies in the former, chance applies in the latter. Your decision calculation model might go something like this:
90 x 100% of happening = 90
110 x 80% of happening = 88
A higher loss than potential gain.
The numbers assigned above aren't necessarily anything tangible, such as money. It could be something abstract like goodwill, and other things that can't be counted.
Due to many unknown and uncontrollable life variables, mistakes will be made. God knows I make plenty of them. Conversely, good luck and small miracles do happen.
Your salvation is not to make things worse. When in doubt, pause. There will be missed opportunities but missed too will be the grief you would experience being ill-prepared and being someone you're not or don't want to be. You don't want to break your principles simply because others are doing it. There is no shame in making a stand, even (especially) an idealistic one. What is shameful is causing pain and unhappiness around you.
Observe first and foremost. If there is a clear opening and benefit, take action. The key is paying attention each and every day to change happening all around you because the only constant in life is change. That is why change is good.
Therefore, wanting more is knowing when to be happy with where you are now. If you move without seeing fully where you are stepping, you might actually be getting less than you bargained for. ☮